Advice is like water, depending on where it comes from you can get flooded with it or be in a drought.
There are 3 types of people.
There are people that like to flood you with so much advice that you need a levy to keep it from overflowing. This advice is hard to parse through and often too muddy to see which is good or bad advice.
Then there are people that keep advice bottled up, they may have all the things you need but you have to pay. They hand out the advice little by little so you can sip it nice and slow.
Then there are other people that give you advice only when you turn the facet on. It’s free advice but sometimes the water is cloudy and sometimes it’s clear.
When growing up I was drowning in advice it was hard to determine what was relevant, good and useful. To some degree all of it was useful. But I didn’t have the right towels to soak it up.
If I was anything my daughter, which I probably was, I wanted to do things my own way. I didn’t want advice on anything from anyone.
But there are some things I wish people did tell me that I would tell my younger self, today.
Don’t let others dictate your life.
As a child, you have little control over what decisions your parents make on your behalf. But whenever you can, let them know what your interests are.
Brag about your awesomeness.
This is essential. But keep it in check. I’m not saying go on “trumpitits” on everyone. But share your brilliance.
I always thought that hard work and dedication would be recognized and rewarded. But in actuality, you have to tell people how amazing you are. For example, if you saved the company $10,000 dollars – let people know. If you managed to salvage a cheap website design – tell upper management. Don’t sit idle – shout your amazingness from the rough tops.
Don’t let fear be your guide
Fear is the first step to regret. Know that fear is an acceptable emotion, but don’t let it stop you from trying new things.
Make time to socialize
Doing great work will only get you so far in life. Talk to people, make sure they will remember your name. School teachers may seem intimidating but take some time to say hello.
When you are at work, schedule meetings with upper management and get to know them and what they are looking for. I’ve seen this work wonders for others.
Don’t be afraid to say no
There are people in your life that may try and stir you in the wrong direction. It’s okay to say no, even to your best friends. It’s okay to say no to people of authority if they ask for something that feels wrong.
Follow your passions
Just do it. Don’t let anyone tell you can’t do something. Follow your heart and do more of things you love to do.
Don’t always follow the rules
You should always listen to your parents because they are there to protect you. But sometimes there desire to keep you safe may prevent you from following your passions. Sometimes you will need to break their rules to pursue your dreams.
Be a change agent
Don’t spend your time accepting everything that happens. If you can change something for the better just do it.
Don’t forget to love yourself
I’m telling you this now, so you don’t spend the next 10+ years trying to figure this out. Don’t waste your time with negative self-talk. Remember that you are bright, brilliant and beautiful.