It’s okay to ask for help, you don’t have to do it all
Everything I know now, I’ve learned on my own. I didn’t have a mentor telling me what to do and most of the time I didn’t take a class to learn something. I’ve either picked up a book or just tried to figure it out for myself. I’m not going to lie sometimes it has taken me two or three times longer than someone with the background and expertise, but I am proud of my accomplishments.
However somewhere along the line I realized that I might have gotten even further if I just asked for help or paid someone to do some of those things I struggled and still struggle with. I’m naturally a cheap ass so paying for a service when I can just figure it out ALWAYS seemed like the right decision.
But it’s not ALWAYS the right decision.
I’m slowly learning how to focus on my strengths and seek help with the things I’m not so good at or don’t have the time to perfect. The first thing I had to admit is that I won’t be able to develop and design a WordPress template to my expectations. I no longer have the time and I’m a little behind in the development to add the bells and whistles I seek. So I’ve transitioned the majority of my sites to designed premium templates. This is allowing me to focus on my favorite part of maintaining a blog the actual writing.
For years I’ve used the Headway theme but have transitioned away from it because the more they make it user friendly for the non programmer the harder it is for me to control and I NEEDED the control. The more I couldn’t find the way to do what I wanted the more frustrated I got and I wound up spending more time designing/customizing my blog then writing on the blog.
It had to stop! And it has. The template I am using now has most of the functionality I seek. I’ve let go of the need to customize and now I’m focusing on the content.
I’ve done the same with my Photography blog; I’ve spent several years trying to perfect the presentation to my liking. Then a few weeks ago I made an update to WordPress and it broke the template. I didn’t have the time to fix it so I decided to simply things. I decided to use a ProPhoto template and so far I’m completely happy with it. After I finish making some final customizations I’ll be able to focus on adding content to the site. A site I haven’t updated for months.
I’m a natural DIY’er so taking this step was conflicting I know probably could have come up with a great design and had the templates development but I just don’t have the time and energy to do it. I can stop dwelling on that fact that everything isn’t perfect and can focus on what I really want.
Being a DIY’er can hinder your success if you don’t recognize the opportunities that can make your job easier or can help you reach your goals faster. It’s important for everyone to recognize what they are good at and ask for help on the things they are not. It is okay to not do EVERYTHING.