Nobody's perfect, especially on Facebook. If you're not secretly watching others via social media, then you're Facebook active. To fall into the latter category, then, sure, you may have posted a picture here and there in vain. You updated about your half marathon or vented about your pet peeve of the day. As long as your Facebook behavior is balanced, you practice good etiquette; however, you may want to check that you're not bludgeoning any of the following personas:
We've all heard that thou shalt not over-share the personal details of our lives in long-winded status updates. So you posted about your personal travails of online fraud or how much you deserve this post-work drink. Although facts about identity theft are important and everyone appreciates a good cocktail, you're violating the unofficial TMFI (too much Facebook information) rule that prohibits journaling about your problems. PCWorld.com agrees with Facebook over-sharers that yes, "the occasional social media rant can be cathartic."
Practice self-control though if you turn to Facebook as your artificial therapist or diary. The face-to-face socially polite question "how are you?" isn't necessarily an invitation to divulge details about your messy divorce or how you can't kick this cold. Facebook's "what's on your mind?" follows the same protocol.
The same rule applies for Facebook junkies who excessively like and comment and like and comment. I like your status. I like every comment posted underneath. Somewhere, somehow, a simple status about the apocalypse has turned into a chat room and forum. Other forms of communication for this type of messaging are Gchat, email, text message, Skype; they exist for personal conversations and sharing opinions. Cut back on the activity. Curb your addiction and reduce your Facebook face time for your health and personal identity safety.
We all need an ego boost here and there — a kind compliment, some validation, a little encouragement. Begging for it on the Internet, on the other hand, places you in the category of Facebook don'ts.
Ask yourself the following questions, and if you answer yes, then it may be time for a self-intervention:
- Do most of my photos consist of headshots — that I took?
- Does every good picture of mine need to go on Facebook?
- Do I share every achievement, whether it's my own or my children's?
- Do I post about every mile I've run or check-in whenever I'm at the gym?
- Am I boastful about my life, family, friends, work or hobbies?
With a little self-awareness, you can easily step away from the role of being a perpetual "self-promoter." Sure, Facebook friends and family love to keep up on your endeavors, accomplishments and whereabouts. Just use discretion. The constant pursuit of life affirmations on Facebook does neither you or your cyber friends justice.
Somehow when we accepted your friendship on Facebook, we inadvertently opened a self-help book. Everyone should welcome motivation and inspiration into their lives, but nobody's asking you to be our life coach. Do you love word art that says "I Can & I Will," "Think Positive & Positive Things will Happen," or "Let Your Past Make You Better, Not Bitter?" Then your "Life Inspiration" Pinterest board awaits you! Publishing ThinkExist.com or Brainyquote.com quotations to Facebook doesn't necessarily make you a world philosopher and spiritual guru. Your Facebook friends are definitely not asking to be your disciple.