Busy. Once considered a badge of honor now feels like a curse.
Five years ago I would have bragged about how I was juggling my busy life. Working full-time, writing part-time, running an online store. All while parenting two children under six. And I loved every bit of it. So much that I decided it wasn’t enough. So I rekindled my second love, photography. I would write on my lunch breaks and take pictures daily. After the kids went to bed, I spent my nights preparing products for shipment and editing photos.
And I loved it.
Then things started to change. It wasn’t overnight. It was more like a small leak under the kitchen sink that seeps into the plywood base of your cabinets. I kept working, the leak kept dripping and my heart started aching. I felt like I was missing something but configure out how or what it was because I was doing everything.
Then I realized what I was missing was NOT doing anything. What I wore as a badge of honor was now feeling like a drug, an addiction that I could not break. I hated it.
Work and kid activities started to take over my time forcing me to drop the one thing I loved to do. I stopped writing. And I kept getting busy. So much that I dropped my second love photography.
And my heart still aches. I crave to be unbusy and can’t figure out how to get there. Facebook was feeling my frustration today. My wall was filled with articles about being too busy.
According to Omid Safii, “This disease of being “busy” (and let’s call it what it is, the dis-ease of being busy, when we are never at ease) is spiritually destructive to our health and wellbeing. It saps our ability to be fully present with those we love the most in our families, and keeps us from forming the kind of community that we all so desperately crave.
I realized we are spreading this disease to our children. I don’t know how many times I tell my daughter she doesn’t have time to sit around. She has to much homework and dance classes she can’t afford to waste time to be “unbusy”.
What am I doing? Am I conditioning my kids to develop the same “busy” disease I’m trying to find a cure for?
I am finally ready to make an intentional commitment to be less busy, to become unbusy. Joshua Becker’s article A Helpful Guide to Becoming Unbusy is a great place to start.
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